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For Adults

The Moral Intelligence of Children: How to Raise a Moral Child, by Robert Coles. Shows the ways in which children become moral--or not so moral--adults, drawing on case studies, talks with parents, visits to nurseries and classrooms, and interviews with children.


Money Sanity Solutions: Linking Money and Meaning, by Nathan Dungan. A guide designed to bring families together to build new skills, counteract hyper-consumerism, and equip the next generation for a lifetime of financial success. What makes this one a true gem is how Dungan helps families clearly see how they can proactively develop and maintain healthy money habits linked to their values.


Connecting with Our Children: Guiding Principles for Parents in a Troubled World, by Roberta Gilbert. Shows parents how to build the connection found in better parent-child relationships. Parents gain a new way to think about and respond to family problems.


Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking About Human Interactions, by Roberta Gilbert. After food, water, and shelter, relationships are the most important factors in determining quality of life. This book offers practical and authoritative family therapy advice and is a blueprint to better relationships.


Family: The Compact Among Generations, by James E. Hughes, Jr. This book brings insight into what makes families flourish and fail. Hughes' advice addresses not only what to do but how to think about the complex issues of family governance, growth, and stability and the ongoing challenge of nurturing the happiness of each family member.


Working with the Ones You Love: Strategies for Successful Family Business, by Dennis T. Jaffe. Through exercises, reflection questions and case histories this book will help family business owners, heirs, other relatives and employees build communication, resolve conflict between family members and enable the family and business to grow into the next generation.


In Over Our Heads: The Mental Demands of Modern Life, by Robert Kegan. This book assesses the complex demands of society and our mental capacities, and shows what happens when we find ourselves, as we so often do, in over our heads. What emerges in these pages is a way of thinking that allows us to view adult development as an open-ended process.


Too Much of a Good Thing: Raising Children of Character in an Indulgent Age, by Dan Kindlon, Ph.D. Interviews with teenagers, parents and experts offer insight into what the author terms the seven "deadly" syndromes, including pride, gluttony and greed.


Succeeding Generations: Realizing the Dream of Families in Business, by Ivan Lansberg. Drawing examples from companies in America, Europe, and Latin America, this book explores leadership transitions in family businesses, offering a clear-eyed assessment of the different options, from direct succession to building partnerships between siblings and cousins.


The Generosity Plan: Sharing Your Time, Treasure, and Talent to Shape the World, by Kathy LeMay. Professional global activist LeMay sets out to accomplish a twofold task with her inspirational handbook. First, she ventures to redefine the word philanthropist and second she hopes to show readers just how easy it is to be philanthropic, regardless of personality or personal budget.


Inherited Wealth: Opportunities and Dilemmas, by John L. Levy. Filled with wisdom and insights for families, inheritors, and their advisors, this book explores a broad range of issues that often arise through the transmission of wealth within a family--and then responds to these in a healing and transformative way.


Family Wealth Counseling: Getting to the Heart of the Matter, by E.G. "Jay" Link and Peter F. Tedstrom. This book puts into writing the collective wisdom of more than twenty years of working with and learning from hundreds of wealthy families. The Family Wealth Counseling process helps affluent families honestly address the important soft issues of life as well as the complex hard issues of wise tax planning.

The Healing Power of Doing Good, by Allan Luks & Peggy Payne. Conventional wisdom has always held that when we help others, some of the good we do flows back to us. This book takes a look at the widely discussed research that shows that helping others regularly produces significant health benefits as well.


The Dilemmas of Family Wealth: Insights on Succession, Cohesion, and Legacy, by Judy Martel. This book takes a fresh look at the communications barriers, misunderstandings, and generational conflicts that can pull families apart and scatter their wealth in far less time than it took to build it. Martel identifies the dilemmas that families are likely to face and offers wise counsel for overcoming the challenges they pose.


You Can Go Home Again: Reconnecting with Your Family, by Monica McGoldrick. Understanding one's family patterns makes it possible to connect with one's ancestors and recreate better family relationships. McGoldrick offers an innovative method of combining genealogical research with self-awareness.


Volunteer Vacations: Short Term Adventures That Will Benefit You and Others, by Bill McMillon. This book lists over 2,000 projects worldwide that depend on volunteers. Comprehensive information includes project summaries, contact information, prices, dates and location of projects, and information about how to apply.


Conscience & Community: The Legacy of Paul Ylvisaker, by National Center for Family Philanthropy, Editor - Virginia M. Esposito. Few can inspire a generation the way that educator and philanthropic advisor Paul Ylvisaker did. This former foundation trustee has been described as the heart and soul of organized philanthropy. This collection of his essays, speeches, and articles touches on philanthropy, education, urban issues, and community.


Splendid Legacy: The Guide to Creating Your Family Foundation, by National Center for Family Philanthropy, Editor - Virginia M. Esposito. The first and only comprehensive guide designed especially for donors and families who are starting family foundations. It helps families and their advisors create a detailed blueprint for their family foundations to fulfill their hopes and goals.


The Inheritor's Handbook: A Definitive Guide for Beneficiaries, by Dan Rottenberg. A comprehensive guide through the inheritance process that gets to the heart of the complex issues, both financial and emotional, beneficiaries face. Rottenberg demonstrates how future heirs can discuss money and wills, choose advisers, manage investments, and much more.


The Power of Half: One Family's Decision to Stop Taking and Start Giving Back, by Hannah Salwen and Kevin Salwen. A father and daughter tell the remarkable story of a family who set out to make a small difference in the world and ended up transforming themselves.


Teaching Your Kids to Care: How to Discover and Develop the Spirit of Charity in Your Children, by Deborah Spaide. Reviewers praised this book, recently reprinted, as a practical guide to instilling the spirit of charity while teaching citizenship, courage, cooperation, respect for life and tolerance.


Kids, Parents & Money: Teaching Personal Finance From Piggy Bank to Prom, by Willard Stawski. A practical primer on financial education in the home that includes a single chapter on charitable giving, called "Help Someone Else."


The Soul of Money, by Lynne Twist. This unique and fundamentally liberating book shows us that examining our attitudes toward money--earning it, spending it, and giving it away--can offer surprising insight into our lives, our values, and the essence of prosperity.


The Intimacy Paradox: Personal Authority in the Family System, by Donald Williamson. Addresses the struggle of adults to establish autonomy without sacrificing family connections. Through an approach called personal authority therapy, Williamson teaches how to simultaneously foster individual development and family-of-origin intimacy.


For Children

Stone Soup: An Old Tale, by Marcia Brown. This story, based on an old French tale, is about three hungry soldiers who outwit the greedy inhabitants of a village into providing them with a feast.


Kids' Random Acts of Kindness, by Conari Press. In their own words and hand-writing, children record the little things they do to make the world a better place.


Miss Rumphius, by Barbara Cooney. As a child Great-aunt Alice Rumphius resolved that when she grew up she would go to faraway places, live by the sea in her old age, and do something to make the world more beautiful--and she does all those things, the last being the most difficult of all.


Seedfolks, by Paul Fleischman. A story unfolds when a neighborhood in ruins is transformed by a young girl who plants a few lima beans in an abandoned lot. Slowly neighbors are touched and stirred to action and people from all ages and ethnicities begin to turn the littered lot into a garden for the whole community.

Under the Lemon Moon, by Edith Hope Fine. The theft of all the lemons from her lemon tree leads Rosalinda to an encounter with la Anciana, the Old One, who walks the Mexican countryside helping things grow, and to an understanding of generosity and forgiveness.

Giving, by Shirley Hughes. A little girl and her baby brother experience the various aspects of giving, finding that it is nice whether you are giving a present, a smile, or a kiss.


Aldo Ice Cream, by Johanna Hurwitz. Nine-year-old Aldo discovers the pleasures of doing volunteer work to help the older citizens of the community and the satisfactions of earning his first money on his own for unselfish reasons.


The Heart of the City, by Ron Koertge. After she and her parents move to an ethnically mixed inner city neighborhood, ten-year-old Joy and her new friend Neesha decide to do something to keep drug dealers off their block.


Passage to Freedom: The Sugihara Story, by Ken Mochizuki. In 1940 Chiune Sugihara, the Japanese consul in Lithuania, saved the lives of hundreds of Polish Jewish refugees by writing out visas that enabled them to escape the Nazis, in turn risking the lives of his own family. The story is told from the perspective Hiroki, the eldest son.


Mrs. Frisby and the Rats of NIMH, by Robert C. O'Brien. Mrs. Frisby, a widowed mouse with a sick child, is in need and must overcome her fear by asking the rats living under the rosebush at the Fitzgibbon farm for help.


The Giving Box: Create a Tradition of Giving with Your Children, by Fred Rogers. A book and actual box set to help children begin to save money for good causes. The book teaches children lessons in generosity through heartwarming fictional stories set in countries around the world.


The Giving Tree, by Shel Silverstein. A moving parable for readers of all ages that offers an affecting interpretation of the gift of giving and a serene acceptance of another's capacity to love in return.


Down Home at Miss Dessa's, by Bettye Stroud. In the South of the 1940s, two young African-American sisters spend the day caring for an elderly neighbor.

Raising Yoder's Barn, by Jane Yolen. Eight-year-old Matthew tells what happens when fire destroys the barn on his family's farm and all the Amish neighbors come to rebuild it in one day.


For Adolescents

The Ancient One, by T.A. Barron. While helping her Great Aunt Melanie try to protect an Oregon redwood forest from loggers, thirteen-year-old Kate goes back five centuries through a time tunnel and faces the evil creature Gashra, who is bent on destroying the same forest.


Whirligig, by Paul Fleischman. After a drunken teenage boy kills a girl while driving, his life is transformed by fulfilling a request of the girl's mother.


It's Your World--If You Don't Like It, Change It: Activism for Teenagers, by Mikki Halpin. The issues in this book are of crucial interest, encompassing almost every scope of social activism. Each chapter includes how to get involved at home, at school, and in the community, and in compelling sidebars, individual teens speak out about their activism.


Pay it Forward, by Catherine Ryan Hyde. When a young man starts "paying it forward" for a social studies project, unusual things happen in this bittersweet and uplifting tale.


The Kid's Guide to Service Projects, by Barbara Lewis. Over 500 ideas for young people who want to make a difference.


The Kid's Guide to Social Action: How to Solve the Social Problems you Choose--and Turn Creative Thinking into Positive Action, by Barbara Lewis. A simple-to-follow guide for young people, teachers, and parents to help plan their course of social action. Projects range from instigating cleanup of toxic waste to youth-rights campaigns.


The Teen Guide to Global Action: How to Connect with Others (Near & Far) to Create Social Change, by Barbara Lewis. This book includes real-life stories to inspire young readers, plus a rich menu of opportunities for service, user friendly tools and resources so kids can put their volunteer spirit into practice.


Giving Gifts on My Birthday: A Kids' Guide to Charitable Giving, by Dylan Mariuzza. Written by a twelve year old boy, this book is a guide for kids to support charities and help those who need it. The author suggests giving charitable donations instead of presents for a friend's birthday party.


The Giving Book: Open the Door to a Lifetime of Giving, by Ellen Sabin. An illustrative interactive framework for giving young people a fuller, wider perspective on the world in which they live and how to contribute--in both big ways and small--to making it a better place.


150 Ways Teens Can Make a Difference, by Marian Salzman & Teresa Reisgies.  Teenagers discuss the rewarding and sometimes frustrating experiences of being a volunteer, including their commitment and accomplishments, parental support, and how they incorporate volunteer activities into their busy high school schedules.

For more information

Lynne Yontz, CAP®

Chief Charitable Giving Officer

Phone (515) 447-4203